Why You Are Not Achieving Your Goals And How To Fix It!
After working in the health and fitness industry for over 10 years as a Personal Trainer and Dietitian I have realised there is one big difference between those that achieve their goals and those that do not.
The one ingredient that sets these two types of people apart is their Map.
Below I have simplified the thoughts and behaviours that distinguished those that have a map and achieve their goals and those that don’t.
PEOPLE WHO WILL NEVER ACHIEVE THEIR GOALS
• Fail to clearly define their goals. They have ambiguous goals or statements such as “I want to be more healthy”, “I want to lose weight”, “I want to be fitter”, “I want to earn more money”.
• As they don’t really know their ‘destination’ they are unable to identify where they currently are and in relation to their goal.
• Fail to identify barriers or challenges they are likely to encounter
• Fail to create strategies to overcome challenges
• Lack a plan to achieve their goals, like a map they have no idea where they are going so they never feel like they are making progress
• They fail to identify the stepping stones to achieving their goals
• They are fearful of asking for help from someone who has travelled the path or who is an expert in the path they need to travel.
• They don’t know where to go for help because they don’t know where they are going, what skills they need to develop and what knowledge or greater understanding needs to be gained.
PEOPLE WHO WILL ALWAYS ACHIEVE THIER GOALS
• Know what they want and are crystal clear on what this looks and feels like. Their goals are SMART GOALS.
S – specific, M – Measurable, A – Achievable, R – Realistic and T – Time Frame. E.g. To complete my first Half Marathon by the end on 2019 in under 2 hours.
• Know where they are right now in relation to their goal.
• Can see the stepping stones or ‘small goals’ that lead to their BIG goal.
• Recognise the barriers or challenges, both physical and psychological that they are likely to encounter along their journey. E.g. thoughts such us “I am not hard working enough”, “I am not worthy enough”, “I will never be loved”
• Have strategies in place to prevent these barriers/challenges from achieving their goals. E.g. a regular mindfulness practice to bring ‘awareness’ of limiting thoughts and have the ability to see them as just ‘thoughts’ not ‘facts’ (cognitive diffusion).
• Have the ability to celebrate their success and witness how far they have come, even if it is only 1 step forwards.
DEFINING YOUR GOALS:
Finding clarity with your gaols can be one of the hardest steps. My greatest lesson is forcing yourself to write down your what, why, how, who and when.
I will share a goal from a client to help illustrate then I will ask you to complete the exercise below. I have used different names for confidentiality.
WHAT: Run my first Half Marathon in October 2019
WHY: I have always wanted to complete a half marathon but work and kids have always got in the way. I want to complete this goal as a celebration of the fitness I have worked hard to develop over the past 5 years and also to role model an active lifestyle to my two younger children and help inspire them to set big goals!
HOW: Follow a personalised and progressive running and strength training plan devised by a Running and Strength and Conditioning Coach (Amy)
Schedule in 3 runs and 2 gym sessions per week that are nonnegotiable.
Set distance goals over the next 16 weeks to achieve and celebrate. Ensure I have all the required running gear including a watch, well fitting runners and clothing.
WHO: Invest in a Running Coach and Strength and Conditioning Coach (Amy) who can develop a personalised training plan.
Meet with my sports dietitian to help devise a plan for supporting my training, recovery and race day (Amy).
Get my partner and kids on board to support me and make them aware of my training schedule and nutritional needs.
WHEN: Start today and to complete at Melbourne Marathon in October 2019.
IDENTIFYING CHALLENGES AND DEVLOPING YOUR TOOL BOX:
Identifying barriers or challenges to achieving your goals is crucial for successfully arriving at your destination or achieving your goals. Identify physical and psychological barriers or challenges and list some strategies or tools you can use.
TOOLS OR STRATEGIES AVAILABLE:
Feel free to print off a path I have created for you and complete each section and stick it on your bathroom mirror, back of toilet, in your office or somewhere that you can refer to it every day!
Remember the fastest way to get to where you want to go is to find someone who has been there before or who is an expert on the journey you need to take!
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I hope this has been helpful!